Anyone grieving the death of a significant person in their life can tell you that it is a rollercoaster ride. Most describe emotions vacillating between highs and lows for many months, even years. Right when you think it’s over, another loss happens and you process the first more deeply. Each loss seems to interconnect with the next.
Since this has been my experience as well, I shouldn’t be surprised by my reaction Monday night as I watch one of my favorite shows – Dancing with the Stars.
Each season the show celebrates the most memorable year of each dancer’s life. Monday night Lea Thompson and her partner Artem Chigvintsev dance to Luther Vandross song entitled, Dance with my Father Again.
Sharing her story of her father’s struggle with cancer and celebrating holidays leading up to his death, she spoke about his last Christmas, when he got off the couch, dancing with her for the last time.
Lea and Artem did a fabulous job of capturing emotion through dance.
Sobbing as I watch, all I could think about was the way my father and I danced in our living room when I was a little girl, and the times as a grown woman – the last times at my wedding.
Grief has a way of creeping up on you, taking your breath away when you least expect it and when you think the journey is complete.
Monday night reminds me that the circle of loss is continuous and never-ending. The curve might not stop you in your tracks as often or derail you completely; however, the seedlings of grief that are left can sprout even years later and its’ roots can run deep.
Thank you Lea and Artem for giving me another opportunity to express my emotion and to dance with MY father again!
You can read more about my father and our relationship in my post “Disease of Secrets” – Part I and II.