The Lesson Learned From Someone Else’s Loss

The voice inside my head starts talking loudly every time I drive to the gym.  It says things like, “I hate exercising inside on such a nice day.  What’s the point when all it seems to do is make me hungry afterwards?  Am I helping my sore back or making it worse?”

Once there, I reluctantly get on the stationary bike and start pedaling, an episode of the Property Brothers on HGTV easing any pain with distraction.  My routine deviates little – machines, Elliptical, bike, and through it all racing to get finished.

Bounding down the stairs, forging ahead to the last hurdle of my dreaded workout, I almost barrel into a woman standing by a wheelchair.

The balding man she is helping has a brace on his right leg.  His left side looks paralyzed, a four-pronged cane helps him to stand, moving toward the weight machine.  What seems like an excruciating amount of time goes by as he stands up from the wheelchair and pivots to the bench.  

I try not to watch as I move to the next machine in the circuit, but distance cannot block out the moaning.  Reaching with his one functional arm, the bar is pulled down, drawn back up – each time his face grimaces and he gasps in pain.

The face of the woman with him is too tired to respond.  I know she wears the mask of a care-giver and I think about the silent pain she bears.  I look away, not only to honor their privacy, but because I am ashamed.

I have lost a lot of things in my lifetime, but sometimes it takes a kick in the head to see what I DO have.  I have never lost the use of my body (other than a six-week period to rehab a torn calf muscle) and now that seems trivial as I watch this stranger.

Acknowledging the life lesson in front of my face, I exercise with a renewed sense of purpose.

Why do I now go to the gym and workout?


My imperfect body with its aches and pains is still capable.

So, I now workout for all those who CAN’T and I do it without complaining!   

What about YOU?  Do you exercise and if so, do you see it as a blessing or a curse?  I’d love to hear your comments!




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3 Responses to The Lesson Learned From Someone Else’s Loss

  1. Jill Campana says:

    Yes!! My exercise is a cardio dance fitness practice called Nia (but you know that) and another movement modality known as Kai which means circle and ocean — so very circular and fluid. I’m taking up weights for seniors A good friend of mine suggested a book to get “Weights for Older Women”. I have chicken skin and sagging skin and wrinkles but at the age of 64 and a 1/2 years old, I couldn’t be happier with the state of my health. I don’t go to a gym as I don’t like the thought of being on a static machine when I could be dancing, so that’s my choice. I’m delighted to hear that the gentleman about whom you spoke in your blog, although seemingly painful to do, he’s there. He hasn’t given up on life. When I start to complain about my aches and pains I remember the thousands of wounded warriors and the elderly folks who have limited motion (if any at all) in their limbs. I am grateful.

    • Greet Grief says:

      Yes, living grateful the only way to live! You are a great example to all of us Jill as you dance your way through your genuine life! Thanks for taking time to comment xoxo

  2. socialbridge says:

    Exercise is my idea of bliss. Just love it, always have.
    But, I have never been to a gym … yet!

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