Category Archives: Lessons from others

Looking Death in the Face – The Story of a Naïve Nurse

I draw the shortest straw among the three night nurses on my unit. Despite that I have less than six-months on the job, I’m the one floating to another floor (going to a different unit that you aren’t usually assigned … Continue reading

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Wearing a “W” Back to Work

 I feel like everyone sees the big, bold-letter ‘W’ painted on my forehead as I enter the hospital this morning.  Looking at my feet as much as possible, I put on my scrubs. In my numbed state of grief, I walk through … Continue reading

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The Lesson Learned From Someone Else’s Loss

The voice inside my head starts talking loudly every time I drive to the gym.  It says things like, “I hate exercising inside on such a nice day.  What’s the point when all it seems to do is make me … Continue reading

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In the Name of God – How Faith Communities Can Support the Bereaved

The words of his story stick in his throat as Roger tries to swallow his emotions.  His wife Elaine has died four months ago; the fresh pain being unleashed as he finds a willing listener in me. Elaine had been … Continue reading

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What Makes Your Grief Bubble Up?

“My grief bubbles up at the most random times,” she says as we find ourselves talking about our losses during our coincidental meeting in the YMCA locker room. Days later I think of her words when my eyes fill with … Continue reading

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Castle in the Sand – When the Life You Knew Crumbles and Another Gets Built

My curiosity propels me forward.  A small group of people are congregating on the beach outside the Hotel del Coronado in Coronado, California.  They are taking pictures, but all I can see from a distance is a green beach umbrella … Continue reading

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Fully Alive While Waiting

There are a number of bracelets on her emaciated left wrist; some with crystal beads strung on elastic, another with tiny crosses and charms.  The purplish-pink one with the letters DNR is the one I notice first.   We are visiting … Continue reading

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